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Top 10 parenting lessons from Albert Einstein

In honor of Albert Einstein’s birthday, I thought I’d share some of the parenting lessons I picked up from one of the most significant scientists of our time.  Some you’ll recognize, others maybe not, but all apply to the “Science of Raising Children”.

  1. Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results.  This explains why, despite a daily reminder from me, my 8 year old cannot remember to brush his teeth before leaving for school!
  2. If you can’t explain it to a six year old, you don’t understand it yourself. This law is not specific to parenting, but one that becomes crystal clear once your child can form sentences.  The good news is that sometimes the 6-year old explanation is all that is necessary.  The bad news is that there are infinite numbers of questions that come from the mind of a 6-year old!
  3. If you want your children to be intelligent, read them fairy tales. If you want them to be more intelligent, read them more fairy tales.  Read to them, with them, and without them!  Reading is the key to knowledge, share it with them.
  4. Speak to everyone in the same way, whether he is the garbage man or the president of the university.  The kiddos are watching and they will imitate the behavior we model.
  5. Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school.  I’ve always said that the only thing I want my children to learn is “how to learn”. Our job as parents is to make sure this happens…
  6. Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.  Don’t be disappointed if your child does not excel in something set forth for them.  Let them find their passion, the genius will follow!
  7. Never memorize something that you can look up.  After all, there is Google and Wikipedia for homework help, Allrecipes and Cook’s for recipes, HBR and Working Mother for business tips etc. Information is everywhere; don’t waste your time trying to remember it all…
  8. You never fail until you stop trying. I will get these chicks out of the nest, gosh darn it, if it’s the last thing I do!!
  9. In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.  Don’t make life easy for your children.  Growth only comes from challenge.  This is the most difficult parenting lesson of all!  But your success as a parent depends on how well you learn it!
  10. A question that sometimes drives me hazy: am I or are the others crazy?  Oh yes, it’s definitely me!  I have 3 kids after all.  That is the definition of crazy!

“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness.” – Mark Twain

Boys racing from the beach to lunch!

Which sums up the reason I decided that our family needed an extended vacation in a country outside of the US.  After much research and planning, we just arrived at our home away from home, for the next two weeks, in San Pancho, Mexico.  San Pancho is a small town just north of Puerto Vallarta, with a population of just under 1,000. It is safe to say that the town moves at a pace much slower that our entire family is used to, which is precisely the reason I chose the destination.  We were lucky to find a lovely rental home, Casa Asoleada, located right on the outskirts of town.  The cost for the 2 weeks is extremely reasonable, equivalent to what we pay for a long weekend in Central Oregon, mostly because it is the off-season for travel to Mexico.

Baby girl N hanging out with her Daddy

Though I’ve not written much about the recent change in my view of life (inspired in part by reading The Art of Nonconformity, by Chris Guillebeau, and Vagabonding, by Rolf Potts), this blog in itself is one part of my resolution to live, and in this case, parent, with intention.  One of my biggest concerns with the way we are raising our children, is the fear that they will grow up with a sense of entitlement, or the expectation that life should come easy to them.  Given that we live in one of the more affluent parts of Portland, OR and that none of the kids have ever known what it is like to ‘need’ anything, the point of this summer trip is to spend an extended period of time ‘living’ in a different part of the world to 1) give the children a global perspective of a world that does not center around Lake Oswego, OR, and 2) to introduce them to opportunities available to them outside of the US.  If they come to appreciate all that they are lucky to have in their lives, then that is a bonus!

Big Son N will enBig Son and me at lunch under the Palapas on Playa San Panchoter 10th grade in the fall and before long will need to begin thinking about colleges.  What better way to demonstrate why 4 years of Spanish language is so valuable, than to live in a Spanish speaking country. We want to give him the chance to practice speaking Spanish, to build confidence in his ability to communicate with other cultures.

I must say that there were many reasons we chose the sleepy town of San Pancho, not the least of which was the ability to tie in some volunteer work with the Project Tortuga conservation project. This amazing program recruits volunteers from around the world, to monitor the Mexican beaches for Olive Ridley sea turtles, who come to shore to lay eggs, and move the eggs to a hatchery to maximize the number of surviving turtles that make it to sea.  The hatchling season is from June – August, so our timing was perfect for this opportunity.

Tomorrow I will post on the adventures we’ve had since we’ve arrived in San Pancho, there have been many, so stay tuned…

They all grow up…eventually! Today, I’m wondering ‘where did the time go?’

Today, the baby girl had her first trial day at a Preschool program to test out whether she was ready for a school environment.  I’m not sure what I was hoping to learn, since she has been insisting she “has to go to school” for the last 3 months.

I'm not ready to go!

But perhaps I was envisioning her becoming intimidated by the size of the school and all of the unknown faces, that would tell me she isn’t quite ready for this big milestone.

NO SUCH LUCK!

Miss Thing marched right in to the building, announcing herself and pointing out all the beautiful posters to me, as if she knew exactly where she was going.  Instantly, I was no more than an annoying voice in her space, keeping her from all the fun and friends that this new experience was opening up to her.

Just like that!  All the babies are grown.  And I have to feel a little sad because I know this one is the last and needs me the least.  It is so rewarding to watch, since she is the only girl, knowing that all of her independence comes from watching her brothers live their very exciting lives.  But, still, a part of me was hoping that my baby girl would somehow realize that it is scary venturing out into the real world and reach back to the security of Mom and home.

I’m sure today was just a vision of what’s to come with my little independent spirit.  Perhaps baby girl is not the best way to refer to her…. Any ideas?

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